Keep Your “Why” In Mind

Michelle Obama posted a beautifully concise word of advice on marriage.  She’s someone young people often ask about marriage, and her advice is “to ask yourself: What are you trying to get out of this relationship? Have you truly thought it through? Do you want a wedding or do you want a lifelong partnership?”

The last part really struck me.  Taking the subject of marriage out of the conversation, her statement still sticks.  Whatever you’re doing, what’s your “why?”  Are you moving with that “why” in mind?

Why are you going to the gym?  Is it for the “wedding” (the body that you think fits society’s standards)?  Or are you going to the gym for the long term mental and physical health benefits?

Why are you pursuing that degree?  For the “wedding” (because it’s what you’re “supposed to do?”)  Or because you really want it?

Why do you live where you live?  For the “wedding” (because it’s the white picket fence that everyone “should” want?)  Or because you truly love your community?

Are you in this for “the wedding,” the image, the temporary smoke and mirrors and illusions? Or is your “why” intentional?